Wednesday, April 28, 2010
And even though I am currently wrapping up my Getting Healthy tenure, I think I want a new challenge.
I am challenging myself to run, EVERY DAY, through the month of May (well, through May 28. Because I'm going out of town for my anniversary, and I'm NOT going to kid myself.)
Is this too ambitious? Maybe.
But I suck at everything. I need to not suck at something.
I'm not forcing myself to run a particular distance, but just to run/jog every day. It can literally be around the block.
If, by May 15th, I am still working on this, and haven't decided to suck at this too, then I will register for one of these 5K races.
This is part of my May-ke (you see what I did there? May + MAKE! God, I'm hilarious) My Life Better initiative. Spectacular!
I used to be a runner, and I used to have fantastic legs. But now, it's a struggle to motivate myself to walk to my mom's. I'm over this. I want to be a runner again.
Monday, April 26, 2010
Every day I get an email from you telling me all sorts of inspirational things, and I read an appreciate every single one of those emails. Not going to lie, they really get me excited about living life, and doing my best, and being awesome.
But today, I went for it. I agonized and finally took a risk, and here's hoping it pays off. But, Universe, if you could help me, just a little, I would really appreciate it. I mean, c'mon, I feel like this is a long time coming.
I know I said I wouldn't start changing my life until after May 1st, but this is something that couldn't wait. So please, Universe, do me a solid?
I'll owe you one. And don't worry, I make good on my debts.
Thanks a ton!
Friday, April 23, 2010
5) He likes me back.
4) He's good at bags and video games and basketball.
3) He does a great Christopher Walken impression. Even though I tell him he doesn't.
2) He makes me dinners consisting of turkey sandwiches, with cut up pickles and tortilla chips on the side. We call this "The Bachelor Pad Surprise"
1) He talks me down when I am being completely irrational and all I can say is "I HATE IT" and the ever-popular "DO NOT WANT"
Tuesday, April 20, 2010
But for today...This is all I have.
Thursday, April 8, 2010
Regarding last week's reply to NORTH: Sure, it's fucked-up that this woman is doing escort work without telling her boyfriend. But he snooped through her e-mail! What you have here are two people who are both untrustworthy—they sound like a good fit to me! Because if snooping is okay, who knows what else he's doing behind her back?Then I started reading the comments, and it seems like a LOT of people are up in arms about the fact that Dan is OK with light snooping through your partner's emails/texts/phone logs.
I knew that not including a little standard-issue snooping-is-always-wrong boilerplate in my response to NORTH—a woman who neglected to inform her boyfriend that she was sitting on other men's cocks for money—would get me in trouble with some readers. But I didn't include it because I don't believe it.
A confession: I've looked through my boyfriend's e-mail; I assume he's looked through mine. I've scrolled through his text messages; I assume he's scrolled through mine. Expecting your partner not to snoop is like expecting your partner not to fart or fantasize about other people. It's a nice thought, JB, but knowing what we know about human nature—and knowing that we ourselves snoop, fart, and fantasize about other people—it's a little unrealistic.
And I'm sorry, but when someone goes snooping and discovers that their partner is doing sex work—or is secretly gay or is sleeping with or visiting lesbian-bondage-themed nightclubs with Michael Steele—then the snooping is retroactively justified.
I'm actually really surprised by this... I mean, Mike and I have each other's passwords for everything. We consistently forget to log out of facebook/twitter/emails on our shared computer...because to us, it is no big deal. Am I alone in this?
When we got married, we understood that we would be sharing everything...money, our bed, passwords, responsibilities...you get it. I guess I understand that some people like to feel like a piece of their life is private and personal and entirely theirs, but I just don't have that desire, and neither does he. I can agree that early in relationships it would be wholly in appropriate to look through the texts/emails/facebook/call log - but as I'm married, and been with Mike (in some capacity) since we were 18, I don't see the big deal.
Shouldn't you have no secrets from your partner, or am I living in an elaborate fantasty world? Mike knows more about me than anyone. He knows my dirty little secrets and I know his...isn't that the point? Don't you want to share everything with the person that you're with?
Some of the commenters have said that if they caught their partner snooping they would kick them to the curb. But that makes me think that the people who are adamant about their privacy may have something to hide. Something that needs to be kept private. I feel that you shouldn't really be concerned about privacy if you have nothing to hide.
I think Dan Savage has it almost right when he says:
Expecting your partner not to snoop is like expecting your partner not to fart or fantasize about other people.Except, I don't even consider it snooping. Rarely do I look at Mike's emails/facebook/text messages (mainly because it's boring), but when I do, I'm not looking for anything, or suspicious of anything. If I have to give a reason: Idle curiosity, or checking to make sure he's communicating with his family, or staying in touch with long distance friends.
I feel like snooping (if I were to argue semantics) is LOOKING for something to be wrong, or when something is wrong, looking for a reason. To be clear, though, I don't think that snooping (or being idly curious) is ever a substitute for proper communication. If you feel something is amiss, it should be discussed with your partner. I feel like snooping is nosing into places that you don't have access.
Maybe that's the difference - Mike and I have granted each other that access. We have made it clear that there's nothing interesting on our phones/in our email/on facebook, so sure! go ahead and look around...but you're likely just going to find video game strategy (him) or friend and celebrity gossip (me).
What do you think? Am I an idealist? A rarity? Or do you AGREE with me? I wanted to comment on his site, but it was already overrun with comments (that both disagree and agree with my point of view) and I wanted to find out what people closer to home thought.
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
A few things
- I am wearing green striped tights that make me look like the Wicked Witch of the West
- I've been trying to use a gradual self tanner lotion on my legs and I realized I really like the way self-tanner smells.
- I really want a dark denim mini skirt. But not too mini...just mini for me.
- I'm accumulating things for my garden! I'll write about that soon. I'm really excited!
- I've been planning my Kentucky Derby Party lately...anyone seen any cool blog posts about past Derby parties? I could use some more ideas.
- I ALSO need a summery dress and HAT for my derby party. Where can I get something wonderful - for cheap!?
- We're having grilled cheese for dinner. With Gruyere, and turkey and tomato.
- DID anyone see American Idol last night? McCartney and Lennon songs? SIGN ME UP. I've now created a Pandora station because I forgot how much I luuuuuuuurve the Beatles.
Sooooo...Saturday Mike and I painted pottery at Color Me Mine with Rachelle and her man-friend Jay
Me and Mike.
And by "played around with" I mean I sat there, while Rachelle and Jay staged these.
This made me happy.
The colors are much brighter and lighter than it will be once it is glazed and fired. We get to pick it up on Saturday. I'm really excited to see how it turned out.
Mike made a tankard/flagon for his ale. He found a stamp of Santa Claus and covered everything except the hat in paint so it would look like a lumberjack type man.
THAT was when he was struck with inspiration for his brewery. He named the bearded man Dale.
Seriously, don't steal it. I feel pretty confident that I'll end up divorced if someone steals it. Mike thinks the universe steals his ideas. Also, I feel pretty confident that in our old age, Mike and I will find ourselves shut-ins, wearing the latest in tin foil helmets. You know, to keep the government out.
Friday, April 2, 2010
Buckle your seatbelts! In this edition I talk about how lazy I am! SHOCKING!!!!!!
For good measure: here's a picture of Mike during his June 2006 art installation class. He treated his as more of a performance art. It was amazing, and I wish I had more pictures. Maybe someday he'll blog about it.
Thursday, April 1, 2010
It is at least a large attraction, or section of the park...right?
- Flight of the Hippogriff
- Dragon Challenge
- Harry Potter and the Forbidden Journey...which does sound a little dirty to me
- Owl Post
- Filch's Emporium of Confiscated Goods
- Dervish and Banges
- Three Broomsticks